Love Is A Many-Splendored Thing

Young & In Love

One of my dearest lifelong friends celebrated a significant achievement.  Sandy and her husband Jerry celebrated their fiftieth wedding anniversary, the golden one.

They are golden—as a couple, as lovers, as parents, grandparents and great-grandparents.

Their romance is the essence of what really does make relationships work. These two lovers found each other as teens, married young, had six children together, and took a number of pre-adoption children for many years.  Their lives were never glitzy but were always filled with romance, love, music and laughter. 

They also had their difficult times.  Jerry often worked two jobs to help meet family expenses.  As with any large family, one child or another was having a crisis, sometimes major, but always demanding attention.  Both Sandy and Jerry came from large families and together they pitched in to help with ageing parents or disabled or ill siblings.

But during such times, their love deepened.  I could stop by and find them dancing in the kitchen, or sharing a cup of coffee or playing a game of dominoes while working out how to handle the issue.

They always were—all about family and each other.  Luckily for many of us, good friends became like extended family.  Which is why yesterday was so very special because this couple looked over a room filled with so many people who were part of their married lives.  Those who weren’t able to be there were in spirit or in photographs.

Sandy is the sister of my heart.  Jerry was my protector.  She may have insisted (when I wasn’t around) that he serve in that position, but I’ll never forget how during a difficult time in my life, Jerry was the male who was ready to fight my battles and defend my honor.  Of course, that situation never materialized but I knew he was in my corner. 

Wise & Loving

Marriage is never easy.  Partners have to work every day to make it successful.  You’ve got to give the best you’ve got at any given time.  Sometimes you have to shoulder the work of two because of circumstances.  Both partners have to allow for the growth and change which will occur over years in tandem.

Sandy and Jerry married very young.  Statistics weren’t on their side.  But their love and determination and willingness to fight for what they felt for each other brought them to yesterday.  They took the vow “to love and cherish, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, in good times or bad, till death do us part,” and lived it, displayed it, worked at it. 

All those who’ve been part of them are better for their example.  I count myself lucky to be one of them.  Some writers I know write romance.  If a couple is lucky the romance part of love glows bright despite the challenges of each day of happily ever after and not so happily ever after.  Sandy and Jerry pulled together to get through illnesses and deaths of parents and siblings, challenging times with children and with their own health.  Still that glimmer of romance would bubble forth.  I saw a hint of that yesterday when Jerry pulled Sandy into his arms and they danced close and dreamy.  Everyone there knew this was a dream they both had.  It was also a dream that illness in the past few years has threatened.

Always Time for a Kiss

A love story with many splendored threads—that’s the marriage of Sandy and Jerry.  Conflict, drama, tender moments, character growth—their love story should be told.  It’s worth of a Life time movie, a Hallmark special, the applause and appreciation of all those who’ve watched from the sidelines.

Well done, Sandy and Jerry.  I love you both.




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12 Comments on “Love Is A Many-Splendored Thing”

  1. Deb Maher Says:

    What a beautiful post about two very special people. Thank you for sharing the story of their love! Happy Anniversary, Sandy & Jerry! And Happy Weekend, MJ!


  2. Elle J Rossi Says:

    Wonderful post. Happy anniversary, Sandy and Jerry! May your story inspire others.

  3. caseyclifford Says:


    Sandy will be so pleased that you posted since I talk about you so often. When does France happen?

  4. caseyclifford Says:


    Hope all is well with you and youSandy will love that you responded since she hears me talk about my writing pals all the time. 🙂

  5. Edie Ramer Says:

    What a wonderful post! Happy Anniversary, Sandy and Jerry!

  6. caseyclifford Says:

    Hi Edie,

    It was a lovely afternoon yesterday and when I talked with Sandy a while ago, she’s still glowing with joy.

  7. Sandy Kuhl Says:

    Thanks for all the kind words and wonderful thoughts. It meant the world to me to have you and the other “Ya Y”s there to share in a wonderful celebration of our love . Our family did an qutstanding job gathering so many family, friends to ahare our blessing of 50 years together

  8. Nancy Kaye Says:

    That was just beautiful! You expressed what all of us were feeling. It sure was a special day. We are in Green Bay. It was a pleasant drive except for hearing the Pack lose again. Ben had so much “stuff” it’s good we had the van. We will leave for Door County this morning. Now I’m off for my morning swim.

  9. caseyclifford Says:


    I hope you noticed all the congratulations from others who’ve visited this loop. I’ll be thinking of you and Jerry today as you make yet another round of doctor and hospital visits.

    You two are so special.

  10. caseyclifford Says:


    Enjoy the Door. I wish Jim and I were up there, too. The colors should be glorious. Do get to the beach at Ephraim and send a positive thought out over the water. Just for me. 🙂

  11. Linda Hendrickson Says:

    Thank you for the beautiful words describing my parents. They have been an inspiration to us all and to see their story told like that was deeply moving. Your friendship with them is valued by all of us and there just aren’t the words to describe how touched I was to see this. Thank you!

  12. caseyclifford Says:


    Your parents are worth the tribute. They’ve raised a fine family. 🙂

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